Are You Being Controlled, Manipulated and Abused?

Not all relationships have a happy end. Some relationships are truly toxic, especially when one of the partners is being controlled, manipulated and abused. A lot of people think they can read the signs, but any master manipulator can appear to be the most pleasant person on Earth at first.

So if you’re wondering if you are being controlled, manipulated and abused here are some signs that should ring some alarm bells and make you question your partner’s intentions and if your relationship is worth the trouble or not.

Your Instincts

Pay close attention to your instinct. Do you feel a slight stomach pain or discomfort when your partner is around? Your body often gives you good signals in order to protect yourself. Pay attention to your instincts; they are there for a reason. When something is not right, your body is the first to react, then the mind follows.

You Dread His/Her Reactions

If you constantly wonder how your partner would react to certain news and you actually dread his or her reactions, these are some red flags that you need to analyze better. If you dread your significant other’s reaction, it means that something is wrong with the way they react and handle things. And if you’re afraid of the outcome…that’s not a healthy relationship or a good life. That’s pure psychological terror. And nobody deserves that.

They’re in Charge

They seem to be in charge of everything. The way you dress? You have to ask your partner first. What you eat, what you spend money on. Even your income is managed by your partner. Do you think this is right? Do you think this is the way in which a healthy relationship looks like?

Hello Anxiety and Isolation

You have started having panic attacks or suffering from episodes of anxiety. You didn’t use to be this way. You were outgoing, outspoken and very sociable. Now you rarely talk with your friends and family. This is what a master manipulator does to you; he abuses you psychologically till you end up isolating yourself from the rest of the world.

Pressure and Guilt

You often feel obliged and pressured to do something that pleases your partner. When you decline, he or she will make you feel guilty about it. This is a very common thing in abusive relationships and it usually takes place when it comes to daily things and this includes intimate moments, too. No means no, even in long term relationships.

Playing that Low Self Confidence Card

Abusers and manipulators act like predators. When they sense you are insecure and lack self-confidence, they will take advantage of this, making you feel low, making you feel like you are lucky for being in a relationship with them. You will end up thinking this is as good as it gets and it beats loneliness anyway. But the truth of the matter is that there is a special someone for you, who will pamper you and treat you like a queen or king. And loneliness is better than psychological and physical abuse.