Signs that You’re Being Immature in a Relationship
Nobody likes to admit it, but if you are constantly dating persons who say that you’re immature, chances are that they might be right. If only one person called you immature, you don’t have any reasons to doubt yourself, but if most persons that you’ve dated have complained about the same thing, chances are that there is some truth to this statement.
Maybe you have a different definition of what makes a person immature. If you plan on having a serious relationship and if you want to be taken seriously, there are some things that you can change in order to become a better version of yourself.
Not Sure about the Future
That can be translated as “let’s see where this relationship leads to” or this can be perceived as “I don’t know if I want a promotion in this company, if I plan on staying and getting things done etc.”. When you don’t make some plans for the future (plans that would benefit you or make you happy) you will come off as immature, insecure and unreliable. Practice more introspection and be honest with yourself. What do you want to achieve? What kind of future would seem nice to you?
Not Saying what You Really Think
Faulty communication can be your fault if you don’t say what you really think and feel about certain aspects. You can avoid disappointment if you’re true to the person you’re in a relationship to. Truth may be hard to swallow, but at least you know you did everything you could to get your point across and make that person better understand you and your needs. You can stand up for what you believe in at work or at university and feel good about it. You are mature enough not to give two cents about offending other people’s opinions. You can say what you think even if it contradicts other people. Use a polite, respectful tone though.
Pleasing Everyone
A wise, mature person that has experienced life’s many faces, knows that it is impossible and useless to try and please everybody. We all want to be understood and accepted by society, but we first have to put our happiness and state of mind first. Do what makes you happy, stop living life according to other people’s pieces of advice. The ones that truly matter will get you and respect you for who you really are. A self-confident person who knows all about self-respect will be admitted by others. A people pleaser is immature and lacks confidence. Don’t be that person.
Promise Something and not Come Through
If you made a promise, do your best and keep it. Otherwise don’t promise something you can’t commit to. Be a man of your word and let people know that you aren’t immature and that your friends can really count on you.
Don’t Give Up
Try again and again till you succeed. Success is often defined by strong will, determination and patience. If you give up at the first obstacle, it means you don’t want a certain thing bad enough. If you’re afraid of failure instead of seeing it as a lesson you aren’t mature enough (yet).