How to Deal with Jealousy

Every couple goes through different stages throughout their relationship. Jealousy may be exhibited by one or both of the partners and it is best to understand this emotion and handle it with care before it becomes larger than life; before it takes control over the entire relationship.

Jealousy is something natural; it’s an emotion we all experience but if we analyze what triggers this emotion we can find solutions to this situation and transform it into something useful that won’t cause any damage to the beautiful relationship we are in.

Communication Is Essential

If you’re feeling jealous about a certain person in your partner’s life try to explore your emotions and feelings and try talking to your partner. Let him or her know that certain touches or approaches of this person that is causing you to be jealous are a little bit too much for you to handle and you don’t think they’re appropriate for someone who is in a relationship with you.

Instinctual and Irrational

Sometimes jealousy isn’t well founded. Sometimes it appears as an instinct or an irrational feeling. We don’t want to be lied to, hurt by or be abandoned by our partner so we tend to be defensive, protective, possessive, jealous. A low self-esteem often triggers feelings of jealousy, too. You need to analyze your achievements, actions, the way you look and focus on your best assets. Remember that nobody is perfect and your partner really loves you for who you are and you should stop competing with others; you have already won the spot and have a nice relationship that deserves your trust and efforts.

The Need to Know and to Control

It is not nice to control your partner and know his or her every move. Every couple needs some time off, respect, trust, independence and freedom. Nobody deserves to be suffocated and nobody deserves to constantly feel in danger of being cheated by his or her partner. This is a very toxic relationship when jealousy is the one that rules everything and everyone. The truth will always be revealed some way, somehow and it’s best to invest in a relationship with your heart and mind. Stop thinking of the worst case scenarios and judge someone’s actions, behavior and feelings instead. Don’t think about what if’s. They’ll drive you and your partner insane.

Is It Worth It?

Is the relationship worth all this trouble? Most of the times, the jealousy that we feel isn’t justified but everyone can read the signs of infidelity (when it happens). Ask yourself this: is it worth it? Is the relationship worth the doubts, the heartache? You are both dealing with a lot of pressure; you feel disrespected and jealous; the other partner feels guilty and suffocated. If, however, love prevails and you both love each other so much you should consider counseling. A counsel can easily help you solve your marital or couple issues and work through your problems, finding the right solutions and dealing with jealousy in a healthy, respectful way.